The first instance that comes to mind of an ADC involving a gay man has to do with the British IWW poet Wilfred Owen.
I happened to write my university degree thesis on Wilfred's life and poetry. Wilfred Owen made a tremendous difference with his work, because he was among the first poets in his country to change war poetry from something designed to highlight the heroic side of war, to exposing what he called "man's inhumanity to man
". At the time of writing my thesis, I read everything I possibly could on the subject, especially Wilfred’s private letters to his mother and to his dear friend Siegfried Sassoon (also a war poet).
My understanding was that Wilfred was genuinely gay, and not simply going through a situation which temporarily took place among men sharing the war horrors in the trenches on the Western Front. Sadly, Wilfred died only a week before the armistice, on 4 November, 1918, at the age of 25. His family tried to protect his memory from the notion that he might have been gay and possibly questioning the fact that life continues after death (you can find further information about this here: http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems-and-poets/poets/detail/wilfred-owen
), but I have always felt that the incident of his apparition seven days after his death to his brother Harold, who at the time was serving with the Royal Navy off the coast of Victoria (Cameroon), was not part of this fictionalizing strategy, but absolutely genuine. Harold reported this incident in his three-volume biography Journey from Obscurity
(Oxford U.P, 1963), but you can read an extract here:https://paulroland.wordpress.com/2013/1 ... e-meeting/
Even though he might have naturally been questioning whether death is the end, I have always been touched by the words Wilfred wrote in a letter home dated February 4, 1917:
Christ is literally in no man’s land. There men often hear his voice. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life—for a friend. Is it spoken in English only and in French? I do not believe so.
The link I have provided for this ADC, also includes one of Wilfred Owen’s best known poems, Strange Meeting
, in which a German and a British soldier meet in the Afterlife.
About Wilfred Owen’s homosexuality, you may find the following article of interest: http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-enter ... 97676.html