Why Im becoming shy about attempting to deal with such questions with others is because of my perceived complexity of the "creation."
My belief is that there are different levels, domains and ranks and that in the wider picture, things are much more fluid.
Yes, there are the laws of physics, but they can be suspended (typically temporarily) from power deriving from higher dimensions.
(You will encounter testimonies here in the NDERF database in which people will swear on a stack of bibles, that the car they were in passed completely through an incoming car in what had, just had to be a massive head on crash - inevitably had to be fatal given the speeds involved.)
If one is of great spiritual rank (eg, Jesus), then one can say such things as (Jesus speaking about his life), "No man taketh it from Me, but I lay it down of Myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again.
(In addition, it is more complicated in that there seems to be artificial like things which can be created from an individuals own consciousness which seem to be capable of manifesting a life of their own. Tulpas, egregores and things like third man factors(?). These along with other higher dimensional entities existing in a higher dimensionality (all not necessarily compatible with each other), some of which are capable of interacting with physical matter.
Look at what Linda Howe concluded in her
testimony (Serious Cafe): "And since then, I have never doubted that there is consciousness in the unseen, that seems to know what's coming next before our human minds do. And when there is mortal danger, it can interact with our matter world, can run interference that keeps us alive. And for me, that is angelic intervention and what the spirit and celebration of Christmas is all about for me. And really, it really really truly happened.
(Few people have studied paranormal as Linda Howe has. She has a resume a mile long.)
So for me personally, I am becoming to accept existence of wider dimensionality. (After all not only do we see testimonies of such ideas in NDE reports, but it also seems, at least to me, to be one of the only ways to resolve what are otherwise seeming contradictions when looking "across-the-board" at all these paranormal things. (This card just seemingly keeps turning up.)
So I conclude that some things may be cast in concrete (ie, unchangeable), but many things are not and life purposes and missions can be modified or deflected, etc, etc., etc.
There just is a certain amount of fluidity.
But, at least for me, there is now even greater optimism toward trying to evolve in understanding and capability, to tune into the help that is available ......... to ride this great miraculous wave of evolutionary conscience existence.