CathyK wrote: Yesterday morning we were talking about her last life - which she remembers! - and she said that she didn't want to come back to this world. Then she stopped talking and slept. She died, in her sleep as she wished, at 3.00pm this afternoon.
Cathy, I am so sorry to hear about your sister-in-law but at the same time (please don't take this in the wrong way) I am so happy for her.
When my sister (12 years older than I) first told me she had just been diagnosed with lung cancer last September, day before my birthday, I thought, "How lucky you are! You are going to find out what it's like to be dead." Not that I don't want to live but since I have been fascinated by death, dying and bereavement since I was 12, I am kinda looking forward to finding out what's really going on and what happens when we die. I also envied her because she was going to see all our deceased loved ones.
She put up a good battle against the cancer but she and I both knew she wouldn't win and it was her time to go. She decided to go to a hospice and went downhill fast. My daughters and I drove from Dallas to Baton Rouge as fast as we could and got there 6 hours before she died. She couldn't talk and was in and out of consciousness and I knew from the deep, shallow breaths she was taking that it wouldn't be long. I made my daughter, a nurse, lower the guard rail and I gave her a kiss on her forehead while in my head I said, "Goodbye, Big Sisser." She died April 21, 2015. As she was like a mother as well as a sister to me, it has been very hard for me.
Now back to science...In thinking about ways to design experiments to gather information about NDE's, it occurred to me that the best places to go to where people die are hospitals and hospices. NDE's that occur due to car wrecks, electrocution, etc. are also sources of NDE's but the best places to go where most people die are hospitals and hospices. Not to sound cold-hearted but if people who knew they were dying would volunteer to be connected to monitors while they die, we could gather more data on what happens at the moment of death. And if they are able to vocalize things they are experiencing as they pass, that could be recorded and added to a data base.
I don't know if society has advanced enough to tolerate science infiltrating their taboos and rituals but everything that was going to happen could go on just as if the doctor and monitors weren't even there. One of my hypotheses is that even though we may exit these bodies as some forms of energy, there may be something visible on a different wavelength of light than is visible to the human eye. We need to experiment to find that wavelength, if it exists. That's why if you are going to film/record people as they die to see if anything comes out of the body you will need to go where most people die.
I think a lot of people would be interested in volunteering for near death studies especially if they could feel like they are contributing to science before they die. I know I would and my sister would have volunteered if there had been such a study. Of course, the doctor and hospice would have to agree to be a part of the study and all kinds of legal mumbo-jumbo would have to be signed.